We are taught to varying degrees, that softening is a passive process. That to soften is to opt out, stop caring or even disconnect. That softness is a weakening, and resignation. Bullshit. Softening is an extremely active process. When we make the decision to soften or stay soft we are choosing to consciously engage with it all. We are choosing to stay with discomfort and not knowing. We are choosing to agree to it, even if not with it. We are meeting resistance, complexity and vulnerability and holding it all. That takes participation, patience, courage and stamina. There is absolutely nothing passive about that.
On softening…
On softening…
On softening…
We are taught to varying degrees, that softening is a passive process. That to soften is to opt out, stop caring or even disconnect. That softness is a weakening, and resignation. Bullshit. Softening is an extremely active process. When we make the decision to soften or stay soft we are choosing to consciously engage with it all. We are choosing to stay with discomfort and not knowing. We are choosing to agree to it, even if not with it. We are meeting resistance, complexity and vulnerability and holding it all. That takes participation, patience, courage and stamina. There is absolutely nothing passive about that.